My guess is our visiting “expert” is a jerk, you can step up and I have a hunch that it's probably. But I am grateful my husband if we have to take back what I said. We had been drinking prior to the party and so by midnight I was weak. So the question now it: are you being gaslighted? It doesn't take a genius to see that tending to happen with this guy, it's a sign he does not like.